Sunday, January 26, 2014

It's Not About Me

This blog post idea has been on my Celebrating Fresh Starts list all month. Up until today it's been a "secret goal" of mine for this year. So it is with great reluctance that I share with you that my personal theme for this year is "It's Not About Me".

It is not easy for me to share this because truthfully...I really don't want these words to come back and bite me. Say...next month when someone lovingly reminds me "I thought you said this year it wasn't all about you?" Yeah...announcing what is going on privately in my head to the tens of you who read this blog is a little uncomfortable at times.

But today after sharing this "secret goal" with a friend...I found the confidence to finally write this post. This theme is really two-fold for me.

First, It's Not About Me means that I'm going to try very hard to remember these words each time I just know I'm right...or want my needs met...or think my words are more important to be heard...or want what I'm doing to come first...or what I want to take priority...or where I want to go...or what I want to eat...or...or...or...etc...etc...etc.

I'm not promising I will be great at this goal...or even good...or even truly mediocre with it...but I'm going to give it a very real and honest try.

For this entire year, I'm going to really try to put myself second in the situation. I'm going to try to meet others' needs before my own. I'm going to try to listen to others instead of worrying about getting my say. I'm going to reach out to others instead of wishing someone would think of me.

I am going to give my best effort to focus on those around me and what they might need rather than worry about my "needs" being met.

Secondly, instead of getting my feelings hurt or taking things personally when something or someone "offends" me in whatever way...I'm really going to focus on the words "It's Not About Me" and try to remember that most of the time things that are said or done that might offend me are really most likely not even about me.

I'm going to try to remember to give the "offender" the benefit of the doubt that there might be more going on than I know about at that moment. I'm going to remind myself that maybe they didn't even realize their words or actions would offend me in the first place. Even if it feels like it was "on purpose"...I am still going to take an "It's Not About Me" approach.

You know Paul encouraged this way of thinking in his letter to the Romans. He said in Romans 12:10:
Live in true devotion to one another, loving each other as sisters and brothers. Be first to honor others by putting them first.

I love the idea of this goal being a loving way to honor others.

Even more importantly, Jesus said this in Matthew 7:12:
This is what our Scriptures come to teach: in everything, in every circumstance, do to others as you would have them do to you.

Oh how many times I heard this verse growing up! More than I could tell you, but living it...truly living these words of Jesus are not that easy.

In everything...every circumstance... every? Okay, Jesus. I'm going to give this a serious try.

And really there is even a third element to this theme and it has to do with this blog. Last year this blog and the whole reason I started it was ALL about ME. It was totally for me. I so worried what others thought...I was obsessed with checking the "results" after I posted something. Did anyone read it? Did anyone post a comment on the blog or Facebook? Did I get any likes?

And I was either super excited or disappointed depending on the reaction I got for each and every post. Hubby can attest to how crazed I was about feedback. I SO BADLY wanted feedback...well...good feedback anyway.  Yes, it was totally all about me.

Oh what a difference a year can make. God has really spoken to me about this. He worked on me a lot last year. And now I can step away from that fixation and make these writings more about encouraging others and just letting God guide me in what He wants me to share with you. All glory to God because It's Not About Me!

Paul also wrote in that letter in Romans 12:8:
If you have been given a voice of encouragement, then use it often.

And you know, what a gift to be able to use this blog as a voice of encouragement.

So...there...I've put it out there. I really have no idea how successful I will be with this goal...but it's something God has laid upon my heart. And since I've probably made the last 40+ years all about me...I'm thinking I can truly try to give God one tiny year in this life where it's really truly Not About Me.

This is probably the hardest Fresh Start I have added to my life this year, but I'm thinking if I can pull it off, it will be the most rewarding one I attempt in 2014!

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