Two words: Slept In. ahhhhhhhh Yes, today I got to sleep in a bit and it was glorious! After cherishing some much wanted snuggle time in the Hug Bed, I got up after the sun! And the sun was shining brightly as well.
Of course, I believe it's impossible to have a bad day when you get to sleep in and wake up to sunshine. It didn't even matter that it was still crazy cold outside. In my opinion, sunshine just makes everything better!
So after a restful sleep, I popped out of bed and headed downstairs.
After lifting my little weights, I walked my two miles on the treadmill enjoying a video as well as catching up on a little reading online. I was happy to get that done, because by then it was time to get ready and get going as we had a birthday party to attend this afternoon.
After enjoying some time with family, dinner out, and an Engineer chauffeured ride home, I was happy to get in from the chilly air, don my warm jammies, and settle into the Hug Chair. And here I sit ready to finish my January Quest for the day.
Recently I was struggling with something that I had only really shared with Hubby. At the time, I think he wasn't sure how to respond to me, and was honestly, a bit distracted, so he pretty much just ignored me as I voiced my frustration. As you can imagine, that added to my frustration.
Feeling discouraged, I went to bed that night worn out from my doubts and fears, and a little annoyed at Hubby for not responding the way I wanted him to respond.
Before we go any further with this story, I must admit...there have been times when I have put unfair expectations on Hubby regarding how I hoped he would respond to me.
Over the years, I have learned that he and I are starkly different in many areas of our lives. He is such a guy's guy. It is no secret that I am a girly girl. That probably makes us the perfect match. Of course he's not always going to see things, feel things, or react to things in the same way I do. Nor do I really want him to anyway, if the truth were to be told.
But then there we were that night. I was struggling and I wanted him to comfort me...and tell me it was going to be okay. He, on the other hand, had had a pretty rough day at work. He had spent a good deal of his day trying to fix problems.
There we were at the end of the day and he really just wanted to relax, laugh a bit, and forget the struggles of his workday. I was in a different place. I didn't want to laugh. I wanted to talk things out and have him help me solve my issues. No, we were not in the same place...
At this point in our marriage, most of the time we do find ourselves in the same place. Even though we are "opposites" in many ways, we have learned to grow toward the middle and more and more we find ourselves making an effort to be together on whatever the issue of the day might be.
But on this night...we were not in the same place, and while I was disappointed, I wasn't mad...I even kind of understood...but I was discouraged.
The next morning, I woke up still feeling discouraged. As I went through my morning routine, I opened my email and there I found a very encouraging note from a far away friend, the Specialist. Even with many miles between us, she has been a wonderful support to me.
She had no idea I was struggling. I hadn't shared it with anyone but Hubby. And yet here was an encouraging note, that spoke right to my situation. It was as if I had called her up and shared all those frustrations, doubts, and insecurities, and she had the perfect words to lift me up and set me straight.
Her words completely changed my stormy outlook, so that I could step back and see my situation with a real Rosie Outlook. It was such an exciting moment, I wanted to shout it for all to hear...but it was 5:30 in the morning...and even earlier where the Specialist lives.
So instead, I smiled, rejoiced in my heart, and quietly thanked God for meeting my needs through the kindness of a friend's words. Later, when I thanked my friend and told her she had sent me just the words I needed to hear to be able to let go of my fear and doubts and move forward through the struggles, this is what she said to me, "God did that!"
I loved that response. I know that she is right. I am touched even more that both of us could see that to be the clear and honest truth. Of course, I still thanked her for listening to the promptings from Him to reach out to me.
You see even though the Specialist and I are friends, we don't chat every day. We once worked together (and she is amazing at her job, thus the Blog Name she earned) and while we are very supportive of each other, we haven't seen each other in a couple years. Many miles and a time zone separate us, but that doesn't stop us from being friends.
This story inspires and touches me, because during a time when God was directing me into new territory and I wasn't sure about it, He chose someone to encourage me and support me to go in the direction He has chosen for me. Instead of choosing Hubby, the one person in my life who knows me better than anyone else, He chose a far away friend who was unaware of my current circumstances.
As I thought back over why that might be, I believe, God was giving Hubby a break. He had enough going on at the moment. Also, I believe it was because God really wanted me to get it... He Did That. And now I have no doubt that God did.